When you’re going through a divorce, emotions can run high and your to-do list can seem never-ending, leaving you feeling frazzled. Make sure to find some time for you and block it out on your calendar as an appointment with yourself. Self-care isn’t just a treat, luxury or another task to squeeze into a packed schedule. It’s something you deserve, is important for reducing stress and can actually help you be more productive and healthy. Expensive, low-cost and free options abound for almost all types of self-care.
Take care of:
1. Yourself with a haircut, facial, massage, manicure and/or pedicure. Being pampered can be relaxing and good for you. Facials and massages can reduce tension and are good for your skin and body.
- Low-cost spa treatments at home
- $: Salon services. Tip: Aveda Institute students provide a variety services at lower prices and sometimes offer discounts via texts.
2. Your mind with meditation and music, which can be soothing or inspiring:
- Free: There may be free meditation sessions near you, or you can try apps including these, which are top rated by healthline: The Mindfulness App, Headspace, Calm. All are available for iPhone and Android and free with in app purchases.
- List of Insight Meditation Centers and Communities
- Create a playlist or dig out your favorite albums or CDs
- $: Go to a concert, take a class or sing in a choir
- Some may find journaling and/or coloring relaxing.
3. Your body with exercise (consider checking with your doctor before embarking on a new regimen). The CDC recommends 150 minutes per week of moderate activity. Staying fit and healthy can help you deal with stress.
- Free: Brisk walking. If you can’t fit in a half hour walk (with perhaps the added benefit of enjoying nature if you live near a park), know that steps add up. Park a little farther from your destination. Take the stairs. Walk around your home while talking on the phone. Yoga videos. Among yoga’s many benefits are reduced stress and anxiety.
- Mayo Clinic on the benefits of walking
- Top rated free beginner yoga videos
- $: Exercise classes and/or a personal trainer in a gym or who comes to you.
4. Your diet
- For some, fast food can be tempting because it’s quick, easy and tastes good. More alcohol, snacks and/or sweets may seem to help in the moment. But over-indulging, especially during stressful times, can leave you tired and sluggish and lead to weight gain. Others may lose their appetite, so ensuring you eat enough nutritious food could be challenging.
- Suggestions: Prepare healthy lunches at night. Chop up vegetables for snacks. Take note of portion size. Some frozen dinners, including some at Trader Joe’s, have few preservatives and are low in fat, sodium and calories.
- Healthy Snacks with Protein
- $: At-home meal services such as Hello Fresh or a plan via an app such as noom.com.
Remember to check in with yourself and see where some more care is needed, especially since going through a divorce can be such a draining time in your life, regardless of your unique situation.